By Our Love…?

“It’s no longer a question of ‘if but a question of when”

This was spoken by a popular YouTube channel which deals with news and current events. The speaker was describing how the world has changed its attitude towards homosexuality and how, inevitably, marriage equality will be allowed in all 50 of the US states.

Am I intolerant and hateful if I agree with equal rights but not equal marriage?

I’m not one who supports the Westboro Baptist Church or murderous anti-gay cries but I am a Chrisitian and I know where I stand on this all important issue.

I have a few disadvantages in the way I was born; I’m a woman, I’m black, I’m from Africa and I’m stubborn, amongst other things. While someone on the outside looking in may wonder how any of that matters in this ‘free world’ of ours, unfortunately it does. I am at a disadvantage in certain ways. While I understand how my role and personality fits into my identity culturally, in the rest of the world I am less likely to find a job as easily as others may.

Even my personality can be abrasive at times, unless you give me a chance and get to know me. It is because of the steps I’ve taken to reach full satisfaction in who I am that I feel everyone deserves love. Everyone regardless of who they are or where they come from deserves love. Where then do homosexuals and homosexuality and especially gay marriage fit in?

I was raised in a country where homosexuality is illegal so when I came out into the Western world and I found myself surrounded, I genuinely felt like I was under attack. Since then I have calmed and I’ve resumed my ‘Love the World’ mentality.

We see marriage and consummation of love for the first time in the book of Genesis with Adam and Eve. A man and a woman from whom the world emerged. Many people will say the bible contradicts itself when it comes to so many laws and beliefs. Two things Christians know for certain 1) homosexuality is wrong (love the sinner hate the sin) and 2) we will be known by our love for everyone. Where then does our love for our homosexual family go?

There is a war waging in this world, and a war in my own heart because I want to love everyone and give them human rights but marriage is a spiritual right, a heavenly blessing from which love culminates and life emerges. No every marriage doesn’t end in children or even a stable family but that’s how it’s meant to be.

A man and a woman are like a lock and a key; differently made but together we fit to open a door to heaven. It can’t work with two locks or two keys.

This won’t be the last time I address this topic, it’s a difficult one which haunts and challenges me daily, but I guess for now I concentrate on love.

Love one another as our Lord Jesus Christ has loved us. However, even when Jesus was being struck and torn, and betrayed and beaten and bled, He never lost his course. He never forgot what he came for. He never lost who he was.

In this world it’s so easy to give up and go with the flow of the world. In my dorm room of 10 people there’s possibly only 3 of us who are still virgins. I don’t know about the other 2 but for me it’s because I am keeping my body for my husband or for the Lord if I never wed. It’s hard sometimes and I want to give it all away and get drunk and be wild but that’s not who I am. That’s not how I was made or who I was made for. We each have a cross to bear so don’t be weary and place it down,  carry it with pride and when it stings and cuts at your sides, or when the masses spit at you and mock you, don’t forget, you’re not alone.

We all fight this battle together,and it will be a battle where we pray for our oppressors and those who persecute us, and  we will fight for the glory of God and love will be our sword.

Romans 12:2 And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, in order to prove by you what is that good and pleasing and perfect will of God. 

John 15:19 If you were of the world, the world would love its own. But because you are not of the world, but I have chosen you out of the world, therefore the world hates you.

John 17:14-15
I have given them your word and the world has hated them, for they are not of the world any more than I am of the world. My prayer is not that you take them out of the world but that you protect them from the evil one.